Monday, August 19, 2013

Parashat Ki Teitzei- The Lessons We Learn


Zakhor eit asher-asah l’kha Amaleik baderekh btzeitkhem miMitzraiyim.
Remember what Amalek did to you on the way when you came out of Egypt. (D’varim 25:17)
Parashat Ki Teitzei is a collection of life lessons. Interestingly, I just completed a rereading of It Was On Fire When I Lay Down On It, by Robert Fulghum. Robert Fulghum first garnered fame as the author of “All I Needed to Know I Learned in Kindergarten.” That first essay, which became a book by the same name, and the book I just finished are collections of life lessons. As with our parasha, these lessons are not particularly long; nor are they complicated. They cover a wide range of topics. Our parasha begins with marrying a captive of war, transitions to a rebellious son, which may sometimes feel like war, but isn’t, then to favouritism among children and inheritance law, and what to do with the body of an executed criminal. It continues with returning lost property, helping animals, cross-dressing, collecting eggs, building parapets, mixing seeds, yoking an ox and a donkey together, shatnez, tzitziyot, marriage law, and who can join the “congregation of A’donai. As if that were not enough, the parasha goes on with holiness and purity, religious prostitution, charging interest, vows, eating from a neighbour’s produce, divorce, exemptions from military service (kolel study is not one of them), collateral, slavery, leprosy, privacy, treatment of workers, individual responsibility, injustice, civil cases, kindness to animals, levirate marriage, sexual harassment, and weights and measures. The parasha then ends with a reminder of what Amalek did to Israel, attacking the weak and tired. A stranger mix of topics, it would be hard to find. The parasha seemingly jumps from topic to topic as the whim takes it. However, the reminder of Amalek’s actions ties it together. The theme of each of these is protecting the unprotected, the disadvantaged, the weak and weary who bring up the rear. J.K. Rowling, in the name of Dumbledore, says the following, “It is our choices… that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.” It really doesn’t matter what you can do if the choices you make take advantage of others. Strength is not in our abilities to dominate, but in our choice to care.
Please enjoy this. It too is about the choices we make in how we interact.
“All I Really Needed to Know I Learned in Kindergarten” By Robert Fulghum
Most of what I really need to know about how to live and what to do and how to be I learned in kindergarten. Wisdom was not at the top of the graduate school mountain, but there in the sand pile at Sunday school. These are the things I learned: 


Share everything. Play fair. Don't hit people. Put things back where you found them. Clean up your own mess. Don't take things that aren't yours. Say you're sorry when you hurt somebody. Wash your hands before you eat. Flush. Warm cookies and cold milk are good for you. Live a balanced life -
Learn some and think some and draw and paint and sing and dance and play and work everyday some. Take a nap every afternoon. When you go out into the world, watch out for traffic, hold hands and stick together. Be aware of wonder.
Remember the little seed in the plastic cup? The roots go down and the plant goes up and nobody really knows how or why, but we are all like that. Goldfish and hamsters and white mice and even the little seed in the plastic cup -- they all die. So do we. And then remember the book about Dick and Jane and the first word you learned, the biggest word of all: look. Everything you need to know is in there somewhere. The Golden Rule and love and basic sanitation. Ecology and politics and sane living.
Think what a better world it would be if we all -- the whole world -- had cookies and milk about 3 o'clock every afternoon and then lay down with our blankets for a nap. Or if we had a basic policy in our nation and other nations to always put things back where we found them and cleaned up our own messes. And it is still true, no matter how old you are, when you go out into the world, it is best to hold hands and stick together.

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